Mark D. White

I’m building this page little by little, starting with the topics I’ve blogged on the most…

Self-Loathing/Inadequacy:

• When You Feel You’re Not Good Enough for Somebody… (April 25, 2010)
• Loving Yourself—How Important Is It? (April 29, 2010)
• Self-Loathing and the Paradox of Selfless Love (August 31, 2010)
• Don’t Project Your Feelings of Inadequacy onto Others (December 30, 2010)
• Self-Loathing People Fear the Fragility of Their Relationships (February 18, 2011)
• Can Self-Compassion Help the Self-Loathing Person? (March 5, 2011)
• Even Superheroes Suffer from Self-Loathing (March 29, 2011)
• Loving Others without Loving Yourself: A Reconsideration (July 5, 2011)
• How a Person Can Make His or Her Partner Feel Worthless without Even Trying (July 6, 2011)
• Why It’s So Difficult to Love People Who Don’t Love Themselves (July 8, 2011)
• Is It More Important to Be Good for Someone or Right for Someone? (September 18, 2011)
• Self-Loathing and Relationships: Believe in Others Who Believe in You (October 9, 2011)
• The Single Self-Loather: Caught Between Loneliness and Guilt (October 25, 2011)
• The Dark Side of Self-Loathing and Insecurity–and How to Avoid It (November 6, 2011)
• Is Self-Loathing an “All-or-Nothing” Proposition? (November 13, 2011)
• Does Self-Loathing Get Better or Worse in Certain Situations? (November 20, 2011)
• Self-Loathing and Reponsibility: Your Partner Makes Mistakes Too (November 27, 2011) 
• Why Do the Self-Loathing Cycle In and Out of Relationships? (January 8, 2012)
• The Tragic Romantic Irony of the Self-Loather (February 12, 2012)
• Are You Single and Self-Loathing? Maybe You Think Too Much (Februay 26, 2012)
• Is It Selfish to Want Somebody to Appreciate You? (March 4, 2012)
• Hypersensitivity Cuts Both Ways (October 19, 2012)
  
• Self-Loathers, Appreciation, and Taking Love for Granted (April 14, 2013)
• Do the Self-Loathing See the Same “Self” that Others Do? (June 30, 2013)
• Are the Self-Loathing Also Self-Centered? (November 26, 2013)
• Can a Little Jealousy Be Good for the Self-Loathing? (December 27, 2013)
• Where’s the Line Between Acceptance and Narcissism? (March 29, 2015)
• The Self-Loather’s Worst Fear: Is Self-Image Set for Life? (September 24, 2015)
• What I Say–and What I Don’t–with My Posts on Self-Loathing (December 9, 2016)
• Should Self-Loathers Be Entrepreneurial Toward Dating? (December 12, 2016)
• Do You Ever Feel That You’re Not Interesting Enough? (March 24, 2017)
• Helping the Self-Loathing Break Out of Their “Comfort Zone” (June 14, 2018)

Adultery:

• Adultery: Is It Ever Justified? (March 24, 2010)
• Adultery or Divorce-Is There a Right Answer? (March 29, 2010)
• Adultery: What About the Other Woman (or Man)? (April 6, 2010)
• Serial Adultery: Is It Chance or Character? (April 19, 2010)
• Adultery: What Should the Betrayed Spouse Do? (May 1, 2010)
• Are You in Love with One Person While Committed to Another? (May 16, 2010)
• Adultery: What Counts and Who Decides? (May 18, 2010)
• Commitment Can Trump Adultery (August 19, 2010)
• Should You Tell Your Friend That His or Her Partner Is Cheating? (August 20, 2010)
• On Monogamy, Happiness, and Adultery (March 12, 2011)
• Are You Tempted by Adultery Even Though You Believe It’s Wrong? (April 8, 2011)
• Married without Infidelities: Speaking Up for Monogamy (July 3, 2011)
• How You Can Resist the Urge to Cheat on Your Partner (July 15, 2011)
• Is Being “Half a Partner” to Somebody Enough? (December 23, 2011)
• Should I Tell My Partner about My Affair? (July 12, 2012) 
• On “The Pleasures of Adultery” and the Real Problem with It (April 8, 2014)
• Does Sexless Marriage Justify Adultery? Part 1 (April 15, 2014)
• Does Sexless Marriage Justify Adultery? Part 2 (April 16, 2014)
• Why Adultery Is Harmful Even Before It’s Discovered (August 21, 2017)

Wei wu wei in Relationships

• The Wisdom of Wei Wu Wei: Letting Good Things Happen (July 9, 2011)
• How Much Work Should You Put into Your Relationship? (July 10, 2011)
• The Serenity of Wei Wu Wei (July 11, 2011)
• What Dating Advice Can We Get from Wei Wu Wei? (July 18, 2011)
• Who Cares What Women (or Men) Want–What Do You Want? (July 24, 2011)
• Definitely “Be Yourself,” But Make Sure That’s The Best “You” You Can Be (July 30, 2011)
• Don’t “Dumb Yourself Down” to Attract Somebody” (August 4, 2011)
• Can Wei Wu Wei Help Save Your Relationship? (August 16, 2011)

Relationships (Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Divorce)

• What Does It Mean to Be “Afraid of Love”? (April 28, 2010)
• Dealing with an Asymmetric Relationship (May 9, 2010)
• Does Love Threathen Autonomy? (May 13, 2010)
• Online Dating Assistants: Can E-Dating Get More Artificial? (June 1, 2010)
• Why Get Married? The Value of Commitment (August 3, 2010)
• What Do We “Owe” Our Partners? Obligation in Relationships (August 13, 2010)
• Commitment Can Trump Adultery (August 19, 2010)
• Expectations in Relationships: The Flipside of Obligations (August 26, 2010)
• On Roles and Respect: Answering a Reader’s Comment (September 9, 2010)
• Getting Remaried? Learn from Your Mistakes (December 20, 2010)
• Who Is Valentine’s Day Really for, Anyway? (February 11, 2011)
• The Game Theory of Female Competition (February 14, 2011)
• How Not to Apply Game Theory to Marriage (February 14, 2011)
• On Monogamy, Happiness, and Adultery (March 12, 2011)
• Is It Immoral to Keep Your Romantic Feelings to Yourself? (March 24, 2011)
• How Much Should You Compromise for Your Relationship? (June 24, 2011)
• On Jigsaw Puzzles, Musical Harmony, and Relationships (June 30, 2011)
• Married without Infidelities: Speaking Up for Monogamy (July 3, 2011)
• “We Were on a Break!” Dating and Sex During a Temporary Separation (August 9, 2011)
• Is It More Important to Be Good for Someone or Right for Someone? (September 18, 2011)
• Does a Failed Relationship Mean That You’re a Failure Too? (October 17, 2011)
• Is Being “Half a Partner” to Somebody Enough? (December 23, 2011)
• If, When—and How—to End an “OK-But-Not-Great” Relationship (December 27, 2011)
• The Wrong Way—and the Right Way—to Think About Long-Term Commitment and Marriage (January 11, 2012)
• Is Serendipity the Answer to Finding Love? (January 15, 2012)
• A Better Way to Think about “Settling” in Relationships (January 29, 2012)
• Single on Valentine’s Day? Don’t Dwell on It (February 14, 2012)
• Is It Selfish to Want Somebody to Appreciate You? (March 4, 2012)
• The Wrong Reason to Get Married—and the Right Way to Think About It (March 11, 2012)
• Are You More Likely to Lose Yourself—or Find Yourself—in a Relationship? (April 15, 2012)
• Is Personal Growth a Danger to Your Relationship? (April 22, 2012)
• Can Love Conquer All? (August 10, 2012)
• Your Dream Love Come True: Lessons from “Ruby Sparks” (August 14, 2012)
• Do We “Grade” Potential Parterns Like Teachers Grade Exams? (August 17, 2012)
• Is Being Dumped Like a Breach of Contract? (September 26, 2012)
• What Can We Learn from Break-Ups—and Can We Sue? (October 2, 2012)